Mar 19, 2020
- If you’ve ever had suicidal thoughts, have survived an
attempted suicide, suffered the loss of a friend or loved one to
death by suicide, or experienced depression or anxiety. Join me
with my guest, Veronica Sites, as we talk about Hope for Recovery
for Suicide Attempt Survivors.
- The Bible tells us in Psalm 34:18 that “The Lord is close to
the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
- If you are feeling broken-hearted, crushed in spirit, or
perhaps, hopeless, stay with us and listen to the conversation
between a board certified clinical neuropsychologist and a first
response crisis chaplain. More importantly, we are two individuals
who have been there.
- My guest, Veronica Sites, is a first response crisis chaplain.
She grew up in a family of first responders. Sadly, she lost a
family member to death by suicide. Afterward, the experience caused
a shift in how she responded in those situations. Experiencing
tragic life experiences brought her to the point where she began to
believe some lies that took her down the path to attempt to end her
own life by suicide.
- When she woke up she told a friend, “The Lord is going to use
this for His glory. You just watch.” That is what has happened!.
She now serves as a first response crisis chaplain and tries to
educate others about suicide prevention.
- The word success, commit, failed, and complete are dangerous
words with respect to suicide. When God brings us through a suicide
attempt is not a failure. The enemy will use those words to make
the individual feel shame.
- Success is not in death. Success is in who we are in Christ,
and how will we respond.
- To commit, means a crime against humanity. God says thou shalt
not kill. It is better to say that someone died by suicide or
attempted to die by suicide in order to help with healing.
- We have to recognize the power of our words and use them in a
- Peer support is so important in recovery for survivors and
suicide attempt survivors. Proverbs 17:17 says “A brother is
born for a time of adversity.” And “Just as iron sharpens iron,
friends sharpen the minds of each other” (Proverbs 27:17). When a
brother stumbles, we are called to come alongside and pick them up
and run the race with them.
- Recognize that relationships are going to change because trust
has been broken after a suicide attempt. Every relationship becomes
shaken, including their relationship with themselves and the
- Recent research has found that suicide has to be dealt with in
the church because it still remains an elephant in the room. We
must be bold and courageous and enter into the conversation. We
can’t always refer out to mental health if they aren’t addressing
the spiritual foundation or else it won’t be a full continuum of
care that is addressed.
- When it comes to suicide, you would much rather ask an
individual “Are you thinking about hurting yourself or committing
suicide?” than you would have to ask the question “Why didn’t they
say anything?” or “Why didn’t I ask them?”
- It’s okay to ask God how we are to get through our most
difficult circumstances. When God’s children submit to Him, He will
often send us back to give others hope.
- We must be so very careful of the words we speak. When we speak
things like “I can’t do this anymore,” we forfeit in the spiritual,
and give the enemy an open door to bring havoc into our lives.
- The enemy takes just a seed of truth and twists it to try to
deceive us. That is why it is so crucial that we truly know the
truth of God’s word.
- Use the truths of God’s word. Meditate on scripture, listen to
praise and worship. When the stinking thinking sets in, speak it
out and ask the Lord to unpack it like a trunk. He has given us
power, love, and a sound mind.
Quotables from the episode:
- The Lord never wastes a hurt.
- God transforms pain that was meant to be destructive into
something that can be productive for His namesake and the healing
- People don’t necessarily want to die…they just want the pain to
- You are the temple of the living God.
- We can always trust the Lord, even when we don’t know what the
outcome is going to be.
- 2 Corinthians 10:5 We demolish arguments
and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of
God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to
- Proverbs 17:17 says “A brother is born for a
time of adversity.”
- Proverbs 27:17 “Just as iron sharpens iron,
friends sharpen the minds of each other.”
- Psalm 34:18 “The Lord is close to the
brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."
- 2 Timothy 1:7 "For the Spirit God gave us does
not make us timid, but gives us power, love and (self-discipline.
NIV), (NASB - discipling / sound judgement)
- Romans 12:2 "Do not conform to the pattern of
this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then
you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good,
pleasing and perfect will."
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Veronica Sites is a chaplain, motivational speaker, and life
coach. Military Gold families have given her the nick name of “The
Happy Chappy.” Ministry care ranges from the womb (as a mentor to
expectant moms) to the tomb, and coming along side individuals on
some of life’s hardest days. Her passion is helping people in
places of pain and penetrating hearts with hope and help to empower
those seeking freedom and how to navigate traumatic events.