Jun 11, 2019
Let’s face it, parenting teens can be a trying time. We all want
to know how to parent teenagers effectively. If you are a parent of
teens, or even of young children who will become teens, and want to
effectively guide them rather than managing them, today is the
perfect show for you. In this episode, we will be talking with
Connie Albers, author of “Parenting Beyond the Rules: Raising
Teens with Confidence & Joy.”
Today we are going to be talking about the high calling of
parenting. After 30 years of parenting five children and 20 years
of working with teens, Connie has witnessed the negative impact of
well-intentioned but misguided parenting styles, all focused on
managing teens rather than guiding them. Connie prefers to raise a
teen according to his or her strengths, talents, and personality
type in a way that will equip the teen to manage life. In this
episode, Connie shares with us how to parent teenagers with
confidence and joy.
Connie believes that the teen years are not something to dread.
This critical season of our children learning to become adults can
be filled with joy and rich relationship by parenting beyond the
Quotables from the episode:
- If you’ve ever wondered how to parent teenagers with confidence
and joy, you’ll want to listen to this episode of Your Hope Filled
Perspective with Dr. Michelle Bengtson.
- We should strive to guide our teens, rather than manage
- The home is one of the best and hardest places to make
- Connie suggests raising teens according to their strengths,
talents, and personality types in a way that will equip our teens
to manage life.
- Kids still need our guidance, even if they don’t think they
- So often, parents don’t want to parent—they want to be their
child’s friend. If you will parent now, you can be your child’s
friend later, but if you are your child’s friend now, they will
grow to resent you.
- Start by getting to know your teen’s world. It is much
different than the world the parents grew up in.
- Come alongside your child and help them find an area they are
- If we don’t let our teens stumble and fall when they are within
the safe confines of our home, they will stumble and fall after
they’ve left the nest and they won’t know how to manage it.
- Parents are so naturally good at enforcing rules. But sometimes
we have to parent beyond the rules.
- As your child grows and matures, you can begin adjusting the
- Pray, step back and start listening more to your child, start
monitoring your mouth, and ask the Lord to help you discern what
your child is trying to communicate to you.
- Trust the Lord to give you the wisdom and insight you need to
either back off or to approach that child in a different way.
- It’s always too soon to give up. It is never too late!
- “Fathers, do not provoke your children to
anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the
Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4)
- “So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for
itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own” (Matthew
- “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is
old he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6).
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Air Date: May 27, 2019
Guest: Connie Albers, author and popular
Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson
Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson