Aug 22, 2019
We all struggle with pain from our past. Places where brokenness
continues to cut deep into the fabric of our soul. If you
have ever felt stuck, and really, no matter where you are on the
path to wholeness, our discussion today will comfort, equip, and
challenge you to keep pressing forward, past brokenness to
My guest, Jennifer Watson, author of Freedom! The Gutsy
Pursuit of Breakthrough and the Life Beyond It https://amzn.to/2KRuPpv shares her
story as a pastor’s wife and women’s ministry leader who has
battled depression, anxiety, brokenness, and insecurities.
Quotables from the episode:
- We all struggle with pain from our past. Places where
brokenness continues to cut deep into the fabric of our soul. If
you have ever felt stuck, then this is the episode for you to
listen to. [click to tweet]
- no matter where you are on the path to wholeness, our
discussion today will comfort, equip, and challenge you to keep
pressing forward, past brokenness to healing. [click to tweet]
- You can’t ask someone for direction when they’ve never been
where you are going.
- Sometimes we need to seek the input of counselors, or mentors,
or those who are more spiritually mature to help us heal and move
forward with our lives.
- Freedom in a holy confidence to be able to walk in who God
created you to be. There is a holy confidence in how God wants to
- There is a military definition of breakthrough that says it’s
the advancement beyond enemy territory. Can’t you just imagine
stomping through enemy territory, and not just going up to it, but
going beyond it to take back what has been stolen.
- People have a natural tendency to retreat from pain. But truly,
you have to feel it to heal it. You can try to stuff the pain down
and ignore it, but if you do, it will come back at an inopportune,
unexpected time later.
- The enemy wants us to remain stuck in our brokenness. He wants
us to be fixated on our problems instead of the promises of
- We have to be intentional about not going into hiding anymore,
and facing our issues head on, no matter how painful, no matter how
long it takes.
- We have to remember that God is so much bigger than our
- No matter what battle we are facing, we are not facing it
alone. God repeatedly says in His word that He will never leave us,
and in fact, in Exodus 14:14, it says He will fight for us, if we
will just be still.
- Where do your thoughts go? A couple indications that we’ve
become stuck in a broken place and haven’t moved forward is when we
find our conversation always returning to the event, or the person,
or the offense, or when we start rehearsing conversations in our
mind that we wish we’d had with the person who hurt us.
- When we focus on problems instead of promises of God, we get
- We all need to have those trustworthy people in our life who
will not coddle us, but speak truth into our lives when what they
see in our lives is not lining up with God’s truth. But they have
to be a safe, selected few. Not everyone can fill that role.
- God wired us to have a deep need for connection, so we need
others in our lives. So we want to know others and we want to be
known. The only way we can do that is by being vulnerable and
sharing the broken parts of our stories; the part of our stories
that aren’t quite healed yet.
- Women have a strong tendency to compare themselves to others,
including comparing how bad their situation is to another’s.
- Sometimes we don’t need others to have the right words to say
or to be able to fix our situation, we just need others to be
present in our pain. But we are so uncomfortable with silence and
pain, that we say things to cover up our discomfort. That’s exactly
what happened with Job. His friends came and sat with him in
silence for a week, to grieve with him. And they didn’t get in
trouble until they started to speak.
- We can’t look to other people and expect them to be able to
heal our hurts or fix our brokenness. Only God can do that.
- Something that can help us when we are in the middle of the
mess, is reminding ourselves that whatever we are going through is
temporary—it won’t last forever.
- It’s also powerful to focus on the Problem Solver rather than
the problem itself.
- Another way to move beyond our brokenness is to take a
“negativity fast” where we don’t allow ourselves to talk about the
negative things or complain about things in our lives.
- Interrupting negativity with praise, and positivity and all of
the good things that God has done for us, is a game changer.
- What we need to remember is that even when we don’t see it, God
is working out all things for our good. We can bank on His promises
so that our problems don’t get to steal the spotlight.
- John 14:27 ISV “I’m leaving you at peace. I’m giving you my own
peace. I’m not giving it to you as the world gives. So don’t let
your hearts be troubled, and don’t be afraid.”
- John 10:10 “The thief comes only to steal, and kill, and
destroy; but I have come that they might have life and have it to
- Genesis 50:20, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it
for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many
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Guest: Jennifer Watson
Jennifer Watson is the author of Freedom! The Gutsy
Pursuit of Breakthrough and the Life Beyond It
Jennifer is a pastor’s wife, mother of two teenage daughters, and
national speaker. Jennifer has been in full-time ministry for
twenty years and is passionate about investing in others.
Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson
Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson